Today the entire world got to witness Tammy marry one of Las Vegas’ top performers, Seth Grabel, live on the 56th Annual Grammy Awards in LA. As Queen Latifah officiated, Macklemore sang his hit “Same Love” and the world rejoiced as 68 people from all backgrounds committed to a lifetime of loving each other. The coolest part about the entire thing was how Tammy kept all of her friends and family in the loop each step of the way, updating everyone with social media through rehearsals, backstage, and during the big moment. We may not have been right there on stage with her and Seth, but we felt like it and this magical couple deserves nothing more than the entire world as their audience as they set out on a lifetime of happiness and joy. I could not be happier for them and I hope as this monumental moment happened that you, too, were able to share it. My sincerest congratulations to Mr. and Mrs. Grabel and thank you for sharing it with all of us!
Now, I would never dare to tell anyone that I know it all when it comes to parenting, but if there is one thing that Bella teaches me on a daily basis it is to embrace hope. Hope that yes, the next generation is on the right track in spite of all of the negative crap we read in the news. Hope that even the dreams of the smallest members of our society can come true. Hope that communities can come together to make those dreams a reality. And, most of all, hope that no matter what this little lady sets her mind to achieving, she can make it happen.
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Articles, blogs, and stories were all written after we lost him and I’m sure this may not be much different. Experts, thought leaders, and friends will try to find a why or a how we could have prevented this. We will look at ourselves in the mirror and at each other wondering what we could have done differently, what we missed, and search for answers that will never come. At the end of the day, I am left with the thought that it is just not my story to tell. These leaders aren’t here to tell the story and no amount of wishing or praying will bring them back to share their story with us. Their story is unwritten and, out of respect for both of them, I’d like to see it left that way. Their final chapter rests with each of us and in how we will live our lives every day differently, how we reach out to our neighbors, and how we carry on each day doing their best characteristics justice. It is the truest testament that we can live for these friends that we have lost.
DITCH THE DIET AND EMBRACE REAL LIFE IMPROVEMENTS
I know, you aren’t thrilled about your waist, your cellulite, or your flabby arms. We all have that part of our body that we are just sure we can fix with the right crash diet. I’ve tried them all: paleo, vegetarian, HCG, Dr. Bernstein, Weight Watchers, Jenny Craig, and I’m here to save you years of yo yo dieting with a crazy common sense concept. Ready? Eat less, move your ass more. End of story. Food isn’t the enemy and even Heidi Klum has parts of her body that she isn’t thrilled about. Instead of hyper focusing on controlling what is on your plate with military precision, train yourself to focus on changing your life. Ditch the diet and go for a walk.
TURN OFF THE BITCH IN YOUR HEAD
Oh you know her. The bitch that has grown since you were a little girl. It’s the voice that kept you from voicing your opinion as a child, the one that tells you that you aren’t good enough or that no one likes you. I hate that chick. At one point in my life she held me back from being my best me and kept my mouth shut. Today is the day. Earlier this year a good friend challenged me to turn off that inner monologue and, while I wish that I could tell you that it happened overnight, it is a daily struggle, but here’s the good news: I am fighting the battle. I am replacing that voice with the mantras of my good friends telling me that I am good enough, that I am smart enough, and, gosh darn it, people like me. I look forward to the day when that bitch is mute.
HOARDING CRAP YOU DON’T NEED
When your world is cluttered, your life is cluttered. Get your booty into the closest Container Store, Wal Mart, or anywhere that sells organizational materials. Separate out the things you can’t live without, the things that are nice to have, what you can sell, and what has to go to the trash. Give yourself a weekend. I did this last weekend and, thanks to the handy, easy to use application Rumgr I have made some extra cash and awoke to a perfectly pristine closet this morning. While you’re organizing the stuff in your life, take the time to organize the people. Who takes from you without ever giving back? Who sucks the positivity out of a room? Who makes you better that you haven’t given as much time as you would like to? Reorganize your world.
When you were a child you believed that you could do anything- even fly. No possibility was impossible. Somewhere along the way you lost the wonder. Life added it’s natural patina and it wore on you. You’re tired. The altruism seems a million years away. I get it. Life ain’t easy and I know you’ve had more than your fair share of mountains to climb. It sucks. However, I would challenge you to sit quietly and try your best to remember that child. Get back to that kid who was sure they could fly. Now, what does that kid want to do in the world? You’re in there. If you sit quietly enough, you’ll find that kid. The world is still your oyster my friends. Dig deep and find the pearl.